Emeka & I on August 11, 2001
On Saturday August 11, 2001, I walked down the isle into the arms of the man I loved to what I thought would be my happily ever after. I married my friend 11 years ago and Charles Emeka Amamgbo was everything to me. At the time, he played multiple roles in my life. He wasn’t just my friend, he was my best friend. He was like a brother to me, a father figure and someone who I could trust with my life. I walked myself down the isle. God gave us to each other. That day was a powerful new chapter and one I would never forget.
Recently on August 4, 2012, I attended a wedding quite similar to mine. But this time, the Charles Emeka that got married, was sent to me by God in a completely different way. If my late husband were alive, he would have marked another birthday on August 4. how profound.
The other Charles Emeka
As I write this, I am trembling thinking about how profound God is. If I ever doubted the presence of God, I became more convinced that God is real and he really is serious about a relationship with each human being and wants to work through us to fulfill our destiny. I went to London at a time that was next to impossible. Everything that could have been an obstacle was. It was during the Olympic games, a very expensive time to travel, my older son was in an intensive educational program and needed to be shuttled quite a distance daily, my mother who normally would assist me, happened to be in London herself on an unrelated trip. I still had to sort out how my store would be run and be operated during my absence, as well as make provisions for my younger son’s care. Somehow, things worked themselves out in ways I couldn’t have imagined. I just knew had to be there. I couldn’t calm my spirit from the push I kept feeling about being present for Charles Emeka Njoku’s Wedding.
Up until an hour before Charles’ nuptials, I had never met him. I first knew about this man via the Internet. He had reached out to me about 2 years ago after watching a video documentary I had on YouTube in honor of my late husband Charles Emeka Amamgbo. The connections I have made from that video, are simply God’s doing. So many have been moved by watching this 20 minute tribute video I made a year after he passed. I still can’t get over the impact it has had. I received an email from Charles telling me how moved he was from watching this video on YouTube. He was so touched by the tribute he wanted to sow a seed of support for my children. He wanted to assist in anyway he could because he knew that it could not be easy for a widow to go through what I was experiencing. But although I was moved by this kind gesture from someone I had never met, I was cautious. I thanked him in my reply and asked that he continue to pray for me and my sons but not to worry about any monetary support. We remained in contact from time to time after over the phone, email and social media.
At that time, I never knew the impact this man who bears the same name as my beloved would make on my life. He continued to stay in touch with me, pray for me and even inspire me to make something of my life. He told me that God called me for a purpose and that he will turn my tragedy to good and through my life, I would be a blessing to millions. About a year and a half after we first made contact, he asked me what I wanted to do with my life. I told him that in addition to running my store, caring for my kids and pursuing some business interests, I was working on a book based on my life, especially on how losing my husband affected me and how I was recovering and rebuilding. I could instantly sense something change in the tone of his voice. He said, “Queen, you must write this book. This is what my spirit is telling me. This is your destiny unfolding, don’t play with it.”
Writing this book, The Reconstruction & Transformation of Queenkay,
My First Published Book
was truly the toughest journey I had ever been through. Having to re-live all those memories good and bad and to know that I would never ever see my beloved alive again hurt in a way I cannot express. I can truly say without a shadow of a doubt that Charles Emeka Njoku gave me the hope and courage I needed to finish that race. He believed in me when nobody (even me) believed I could do it. I don’t know what it was or how it came to be that our paths crossed but it did in the most profound way. Several months later, I called him to say that I had finished the first draft and I would like him to read it. He was thrilled that I had finally taken myself seriously enough to finish what I had started. I asked him to write the foreword and he agreed to do so. Of course, along the way of getting to know him, I found out he was a multi faceted entrepreneur, life coach, motivational speaker and a published author of several books. I found out he had been a troubled juvenile and was doing all he could to influence the youth not to go down the path that would lead them to drugs, jail or being murdered. This was a man on a mission. I love people who are passionate about what they believe in. He reminded me of my Charles. He was dedicated to the cause. Wow!
So it came to pass that I published my first book and have co-written another and working on a few other writing projects. My life is rich with unlimited possibilities and I have witnessed first hand how one life can change another. I am still not yet comfortable when people express to me just how much reading my book or my inspiring write ups on social media and my blogs encourage and motivate them. I feel I unwrap my gifts everyday with the precious life I have. I have the confidence that since I hit rock bottom, the only place to go is up! So I am on the RISE.
A few months ago, Charles called me to tell me he was getting married on August 4, 2012 and he would love it if I came. He told me he had told so many of his family members about me and I must be there. The odds were all stacked up against my being at this event. But, this was perhaps the only way I could show my deep appreciation for the lifeline he had thrown me. So many people participated in my healing process but God used Charles to help me step into the next chapter of my life. His words to me about why I must write this book haunted me until I published it. He said, “Queen, your life and your future depends on you writing this book. You can’t change or impact anyone’s life by holding unto this blessing. You can’t even begin to live the next chapter of your life if you don’t write this book. You will be a better mother for writing this book. You will marry again, but even the man won’t come until you finish this book. You have to give the past a befitting burial so that the next chapter will be better than the last. You don’t know the lives you will change and impact if you don’t finish this book” I pondered these words I finished writing the book but I sat on it for a few more months. I knew how hard it was to put somethings down in writing. I cried for several hours and days after I wrote about some painful experiences. How could these things possibly bless anyone? Who was this man anyway? How dare he harass me with these words?
Fast forward to his wedding day and I found out who he was and why he was the way he was. As my mum and I stepped into the church, in the foyer, I spotted the back of his head and I told mum, “that’s him. I recognize him from the pictures online.” I went closer and tapped him on the shoulder, “Hello brother Charles, how are you?” he spun around to look at me in face to face. “Wow, my sister, Queen, you are here! I can’t believe it. You are much taller in person.” And this is the true beginning of the next chapter. The last year was a preamble.
Charles Emeka and I ( our first meeting August 4, 2012 )
The wedding was by far the most amazing I had ever been to. Apart from mine, I don’t remember the last time I was a captive participant from start to finish. We didn’t miss a bit. When Caroline, his bride walked in, she took all our breaths away! She was like swan floating on air.
THE BLESSING OF CHARLES AND CAROLINE’S MARRIAGE
The service was lively and fun. The couple danced throughout all the songs that were performed. It was beautiful! The couple’s first kiss was deep and passionate and we joined them as they danced out of the church after the service.
OH THE KISS…
If I think this was amazing, the reception was incredible. There must have been more than 500 people at any given time. The reception hall was big and spacious and well decorated. Everything seemed to flow effortlessly.
My mum commented that Charles reminded her of my late husband. He was heavily involved in making sure that everything went according to plan and that all the guests where happy. Later on when the couple were seated, I spoke about how I came to know him. I don’t know what I said or how I said it, but when I was done, there was not a dry eye in the room. Even the couple were in tears. It wasn’t my intention to make anyone cry. I just wanted to share how real God was to me. I pray that Charles and Caroline live a long, happy & healthy married life. I pray for no illness or death to come between them. I know that Charles is already a great man, he is greatness personified. That God could create another human being who is completely unrelated to the other, with very similar characteristic traits as someone I knew deeply, and that the dates and times could align so perfectly, still baffles me.
I went through the valley of the shadow of death. I am fully alive today. Living each day in God’s divine purpose. I’m not perfect, but I work hard everyday to be the best me I can be. I pray that you never lack someone to come to your aid in your time of need. That there will always be signs and wonders along the way to shine the path for you.
Queenkay,
Thanks for sharing this touching and well written piece about a worthy friend.
Ambrose
Thx my brother. God is indeed good. He has an amazing spirit and an incredibly bright future.
Very well put! Inspiring!! Well done Kay Kay!!!
Thx Peace. Stay blessed!
Lump in my throat. Holding back the tears again. It’s obviously clear that God is thinking through your mind and speaking through your mouth. Queen, what you have done for me and how you have inspired me is much greater. After writing 7 books, I sort of lost the appetite for it. Seeing your work of excellence and how professional you have been about everything woke me up again. You have been my midwife and my next book baby is about to be released. I just need to push a little longer. You sacrificing and coming to London will stay with me all my living days. You were part of Gods all things work together for good. Thank for showing us unusual kindness, thank you for investing and sowing into us and thank you for rising to the challenge. If I was in a fight, you would definitely be my right wing commander. Heaven celebrates you, your generation celebrates and so does Emeka my name sake. Your children will rise up and call you blessed. Now let’s step into chapter 2. I love you but God loves you most. In all you do, be the best and never forget that you were born to win against all odds. xx
My dearest brother Charles, Your best is SET TO COME. No doubt about it. I believe in true love and God’s love being in the center of it ALL. Which is why I had to be there against ALL odds. The human spirit is so resilient and there is indeed nothing it can’t accomplish once we set our minds to it. You and your incredibly beautiful and amazing wife have each other. Cherish every minute. pray without ceasing. Your miracle has come to stay. Your next book will be an instant best seller. I cannot wait to be part of it. You will never know what you did for me during those dark years. God knows I cannot thank you enough. REMAIN ALWAYS COVERED BY HIS GRACE. AMEN.
GUOSA LANGUAGE: Mindu wu irinje itole mani kpe a tole jaita sa chiki uwa ‘wa. Ama o wu ibogo fun e mutum nketi Abasi wu o yanwa mota ya, mani ko kanbo fuele hanyar siti iguma irinje. Ko wen bi irinje sile abi silagba ruto – kundu shim shim si na Jesu Kristu Chiolu oga oyanwa mota mindu wa
ENGLISH LANGUAGE: Life is a journey of roller-coaster because we rolled and coasted off our mother’s womb. But blessed are those whose roller-coaster driver is the Lord God Almighty, for he or she shall never get pulled over by the highway patrol till the successful destiny. No matter how slippery and dreary the life’s roads may be – stay with the Lord Jesus Christ who is the master driver.
ALEX G. IGBINEWEKA
Guosa Language
ECOWAS Common Indigenous Future Lingua Franca
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=apEbZ3Vnaeg
Uncle Alex, May the master driver keep you focused on the ultimate destination. Be blessed and thank you again for always looking out for me.
KK, It is well. It is well, auntie
Thank you Auntie. It is indeed well. God bless you.
It is not the enjoyableness
of objects or activities or opportunities
that make us happy or unhappy;
rather, our happiness, rooted in our relationships, makes objects and activities enjoyable.
Things, events, and opportunities have no value in and of themselves;
they get their value from the significant part they play
in our key relationships with others.
~ C. Terry Warner
The root of the matter indeed Florence. You of all people know how much I value relationships. That is what makes us who we are. God bless you richly for this quote.
Wow, this is so touching. Thanks for sharing. The Lord will continue to keep you and yours. God works in mysterious ways. Thank God for your healing too. I love you and thanks for sharing.
I thank you for your kind words, your prayers and your encouragement. May he who watches over you never sleep nor slumber. Be blessed!
Simply beautiful and proud of you, Kay
Thx my bros. God bless you richly.
Queenkay,
Your style of narration makes every written piece difficult to drop.Keep it up!
Wow! Your words are deeply appreciated. Thank you and God bless.
I am still quite stunned at how God is doing it for me in so many ways. Yes God bless him, his bride and his family immensely! I am not cash rich (yet) but man! I feel like the richest person on the planet to have lived such a life in such a short time with so much fulfillment along the way. Like you prophesied, I am feeling the overwhelming blessings about to descend upon me. Even though I am already so blessed, I think this is above and beyond the normal. But the good thing is I am designed to share it with whoever I come in contact with. I am just not sure I am equipped to handle the emotions that come with it. God help me. lol! Love you loads Patty. Keep shinning!
A powerful message about trusting God to orchestrate all the things in our lives that He has called us to do, and that He will equip us for every plan and purpose He sets before us. Thanks for such a wonderful story.
Hi QueenKay,
This is some deep talk…No messing around, I teared and wasn’t ashamed of doing so because I am here alone. If I should tear for any reason, this is it! God bless this young man and his new bride. Your celebrations would amass that you would be looking for ways to handle a high volume of God’s blessings coming your way! I am not religious but I do know one thing, just like you have been stunned, I do solemnly agree with you, THERE IS A GOD! Love you pieces, Patty!
This posting was sweet & gentle. It is amazing how God strategically place people in your life. We serve a God who deserves all the GLORY! Because there is nobody greater who can do the marvelous works he do. You are blessed Queen. You’re also inspiration to many men & women in society and your backyard (community).
Awwwh…thx Ericka..HE is a marvelous God. I trust Him 100%. Take care love. K
You are a very inspiring and loving person. I can attest to that personally. May the Lord bestow you with loads of blessings, my dear sister!
Awwwwhh…Sis…I love you and miss you. You gotta come see me soon or something. We have a lot to catch up on. God bless.
hmmmmmmm what a super story!!! It is well.
Hi Abiodun:
Thank you so very much. Take care, K
Awww…..QueenKay! You truly are a queen! I’ll never forget the day I bumped into your video tribute to Emeka Amamgbo. I was busy searching for something else when I came across it. I will never forget the feeling it gave me! I cried and cried! I taught to myself, what a wonderful lady, a Nigerian and a mum of 2 just like me. I searched and found you on Facebook and the rest is history! After about 2yrs of online friendship, I finally met you in London on the 9th of August 2012:) ……and enjoyed our Nandos meal! Lol!
You are such an inspiring lady, full of life, down to earth, lovely, beautiful, awesome in fact all round beautiful woman. Thank God for bringing Charles Emeka Njoku your way to continue to encourage you. I believe you have so much more to offer, God is not done with you yet! I pray for long life, superb health and peace of mind for you and your family in Jesus name, Amen. Love u loads:) Xxx
My precious sister: May God continue to bless and enrich your live. If only we humans take the time to make the human connections our spirits were designed to, the world would be a much better place. You are so precious to me and I know we have only just started in this super amazing friendship. May God continue to bless, heal and direct your life into your destiny. Amen.
Oh, beautiful, beautiful QK!!!
You have one of the most beautiful spiriits!!!
Your love for God and others is strong enough to move mountains. I feel as if I have known you for a lifetime but yet I have never met you. This is because you wear your heart on your sleeves and your heartfelt appreciation & love for God, life, and all whom God has brought into your path is just amazing!!!
Also reading about how Charles Emeka Njoku your beloved husband’s namesake encouraged & believed in you and now you are doing the same for others, simply shows the tremendous power of agape love and how if we submit and walk closely with God he could use us as channels of blessings.
Love you lots my dear sister in Christ!!
Wow! Wow! Wow! Sis, I don’t know what to say. I thank you from the bottom of my heart for everything you have just written. I am overwhelmed with the love and support and prayers I have received over the past several years. I know for a fact I am a vessel of love. I am not perfect, but God designed with so much in mind. Love you loads sis and stay absolutely blessed and beautiful!
Kay, I am blessed and captivated by the story. Thank you for sharing God’s perfect story!
Awwwwh..thx Babe! God is indeed awesome! Just amazing how he works it all out.
u v really done well and u r such an inspiring lady, strong and determined.GOD will continue to strenghten u and keep u. Luv u load
Thx Sis God bless you.
What an amazing testimony, your best years are just ahead of you, many blessings
Thank you and I pray the same for you.
I received your lovely email. This is beautiful. May God in His love give you the Grace, Strength and Courage to continue to “do” every GOOD work that you “do” to inspire Hope and enduring Change in this and the next generation…
AWwwwh…thx sis. You are already doing you and it is so refreshing to see you in your element. Love to the family.